tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post1557226389854434003..comments2024-02-23T20:03:41.543+11:00Comments on Clairey Hewitt: Sharing too much information on blogs. Or Not.ClaireyHewitthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15709892778460619439noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-37339259890651920072012-09-20T07:34:01.780+10:002012-09-20T07:34:01.780+10:00PS i think practise works, once you've been bl...PS i think practise works, once you've been blogging for a while, you have more of a clue of what to publish & which stories to keep private. I know my in-laws (nosey sisters) read my blog, but have NEVER mentioned it to me directly, that i don't understand?? My eldest daughter is a teenager, the last thing she needs is me blogging anything personal about her. Love Posieposie blogs Jennie McClellandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07422068499429667636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-71109263997017413502012-09-20T07:32:27.844+10:002012-09-20T07:32:27.844+10:00I have a tonne of security reasons why i can't...I have a tonne of security reasons why i can't blog 90% of what i want to, due to my husband's work, which is so fascinating, plus our children's names, ages, schools, events, never posted or well after the fact, so no stalkers can meet us anywhere. You never know. I feel that it's my blog, my children haven't asked me to divulge all their personal information so i keep it for them, off the blog. I don't blog for the sake of blogging, thus only posting 3-4 times a week, my life isn't that filled with blog worthy events!! Alas, stories which aren't mine to share, i have a pretty decent filter on what is public & private in my life & those around me. If i stop to think, i figure it's not blog publication ready. Often something sits in my mind for years, then i post about it, knowing the rude person has long gone from my life, love Posieposie blogs Jennie McClellandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07422068499429667636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-45351639048443444222012-09-19T19:08:36.251+10:002012-09-19T19:08:36.251+10:00His family and our sex life are thr two things MC ...His family and our sex life are thr two things MC wants me to hold back. I've blogged about both at one point :| Now I try to be abit more reserved, for his sake xGood Golly Miss Holly!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12463543869643136378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-63752334534804708352012-09-19T17:58:31.171+10:002012-09-19T17:58:31.171+10:00I have many things I write but do not blog. I don&...I have many things I write but do not blog. I don't even have them in my draft folder just in case. My Hubby is a private person, and I have to respect that. My children are never written about without their permission either. <br /><br />If a story id not mine alone to tell and share, I don't. I am the one who has chosen to write a blog. Family and friends did not, so many things remain unwritten. <br /><br />My family read my blog, and I don't want them to have to wonder if I will write about things that affect them in ways they would not and are not happy to share. <br /><br />Naomihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11944798399375789864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-20205283441549542932012-09-19T17:30:59.174+10:002012-09-19T17:30:59.174+10:00I love this question! I had a blog before this blo...I love this question! I had a blog before this blog that was public and reachable for all friends and family and the blogging community. In that blog I never told another's story, always my own story. But there were times that in one of my stories I would be talking about things such as; friends without kids perception on Mummyhood etc and I would find that every single friend I had would call me and feel like they had to explain themselves to me. I ended up closing that blog and opening a new one which friends and family dont know about, except the ones I know wont take every single word I say to be about them. I never said a bad word or told their stories or mentioned anyones names, just talked about how I felt some peoples treatment of me had changed. <br /><br />In my new blog, I still write about such things if I am feeling such things. And again I never use names or talk about my relation to people unless it has otherwise been consented to. My partner loves the idea of me writing a blog, I think he feels like he gets relief from my constant ramblings when I have an outlet somewhere else. If I ever write about him, it is always with his knowledge.<br /><br />Its hard to know where to draw the line with some things though, as another person treatment of you can become your story, but is it also theirs?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04255092825888473304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-16278862705374679732012-09-19T17:05:40.673+10:002012-09-19T17:05:40.673+10:00Can of worms indeed.
I tend to blog about my exper...Can of worms indeed.<br />I tend to blog about my experiences rather than others'. If I do I never use names and will be vague about sensitive information, and I usually write about my opinion or feeling on whatever it may be. <br />I blog too, as many others have said to get the stuff out of my head. I have many posts that are still in draft form.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09651116248452404269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-91857513162781575682012-09-18T22:21:26.758+10:002012-09-18T22:21:26.758+10:00There are things I can't blog about. Either be...There are things I can't blog about. Either because they are far too much information, or they reveal too much about people who are in them. <br />But for the most part, blogging is therapeutic for me, and it's also a fairly honest journal of our lives. I just wish I had time to do more.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03596142995497292286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-12868573545492128352012-09-18T21:20:34.237+10:002012-09-18T21:20:34.237+10:00I do and have shared things from time to time. I&...I do and have shared things from time to time. I'm very mindful though now as my children grow that they may read this in years to come and I always try to keep them in mind when I tell my anecdotes.<br /><br />People have their own ideas about what and how much is acceptable to share. I think it can only ever be a personal call but if you tell the story with the thought in mind that the other person may read it one day, I don't think you can go wrong really.melbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14032793912135092967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-14575147093384134292012-09-18T21:17:04.186+10:002012-09-18T21:17:04.186+10:00Ignore those emails. I think there are certain pe...Ignore those emails. I think there are certain people out there who make a profession out of writing to people with blogs, telling them they're exploiting their lives, their families, their children or what have you.<br /><br />They are the self appointed guardians of the online world's morality. If only in their own minds.melbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14032793912135092967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-22927600744875803812012-09-18T19:15:24.256+10:002012-09-18T19:15:24.256+10:00I think this is a great question and one that peop...I think this is a great question and one that people should really think about, myself included. I've often thought about this topic, especially in regards to 'mummy bloggers' - who really own's these stories. The mum or the kid? Will the kid be thrilled to know that their babydom/toddlerdom/birth story was splashed around the world? And so I've read that so many partners are not thrilled about it either, even when done anonymously, yet we still do it anyway. Is the attention worth it?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-81998567952380921942012-09-18T17:47:26.654+10:002012-09-18T17:47:26.654+10:00I can really appreciate this post as I am so consc...I can really appreciate this post as I am so conscious of only sharing what relates to me. For instance I'd love to share our best friend's story of what they are going through at the moment but had to ask their permission first. They requested to be able to read what I write before I press publish and I was so ok with that. I'd never want to compromise anyone's love or friendship over a blog.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06911678503912496884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-24233747846316593532012-09-18T17:26:50.142+10:002012-09-18T17:26:50.142+10:00I tend to only tell my stories, so this is not an ...I tend to only tell my stories, so this is not an issue for me. There have been a few times where things that weren't mine to tell have happened, and I've just had to leave them there. Princess Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17428403547798565896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-45843049968254898572012-09-18T17:11:51.245+10:002012-09-18T17:11:51.245+10:00It seems that bloggers function better by writing ...It seems that bloggers function better by writing stuff out. Be it in the public or private domain. Claireyhewitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04848058653374768316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-55938034441066077632012-09-18T16:19:04.405+10:002012-09-18T16:19:04.405+10:00The things that really need to be said are often t...The things that really need to be said are often too big. I have loads of drafts that have never seen the light of day, lots of jottings in my notebooks and lots of Word docs that were never saved - just to get the words and feelings out of me.<br /><br />Megan Blandfordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12932508388869573748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-35733503598796434552012-09-18T16:12:17.964+10:002012-09-18T16:12:17.964+10:00Pen and paper just still can't be beaten for s...Pen and paper just still can't be beaten for so many things.Claireyhewitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04848058653374768316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-55557585829555836732012-09-18T15:15:00.816+10:002012-09-18T15:15:00.816+10:00It's a hard one but I do think that people do ...It's a hard one but I do think that people do have a right to privacy, I never write about other peoples issues, conversations unless I have their consent. My husband too asked me not to share our issues. Men are more private and don't want their personal affairs being aired online. My blog shares the daily stuff without the real daily issues. If I wanted to air these, I feel that pen to paper in a journal may be more suited for me. Hayley xMy Lemonaydehttp://mylemonayde.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-61390257220102521672012-09-18T14:55:21.879+10:002012-09-18T14:55:21.879+10:00This is why I have gone the way of a more 'adv...This is why I have gone the way of a more 'advicey' blog rather than a personal diary blog. It was just too hard identifying that line, and keeping the right side of it often watered down the story. It's going to be different for everyone though. Most of all we need to respect the people we write about. Tamhttp://www.somewherearoundhere.com.aunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-42176105266504967112012-09-18T14:53:52.211+10:002012-09-18T14:53:52.211+10:00I don't name names outside of my family, and h...I don't name names outside of my family, and hubby is always asked before I share anything. But I cou probably count the number of hard-hitting deep and meaningful posts I've written on one hand. My blog's a pretty light-hearted way of keeping track of what I learn.<br /><br />If I have any qualms about posting something, I just don't post it.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15636757667368447102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-37201296354486511562012-09-18T14:51:34.435+10:002012-09-18T14:51:34.435+10:00I struggle with this all the time. Writing is libe...I struggle with this all the time. Writing is liberating and therapeutic. But writing on the internet is a writing for the world to see. I give myself a checklist before I hit publish: <br />1. Is it safe? (do I feel emotionally safe sharing it)<br />2. Is it legal? (am I breaking any libel laws or other potential legal loopholes)<br />3. Is it necessary? (is it self-serving validation I'm seeking or is it truth that needs to be spoken?), and<br />4. Is it sensitive? (will I lose friendships over it or is it my story to tell)<br /> Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12792458456135563307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-29216596848852440862012-09-18T13:05:15.363+10:002012-09-18T13:05:15.363+10:00Yes I guess that is true, he would start to wonder...Yes I guess that is true, he would start to wonder. I think I will get to a point where I say 'hey look what I've been doing'. Such an interesting topic, reading comments of others I think this is why my first blog 'failed' in the sense of blogging. I knew who was reading and I overcensored everything, and I started to dislike blogging very much - I mulled over every word and image. Took the fun out of it!Carly Webberhttp://carlywebber.com.au/charlieandbella/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-25111875241292021422012-09-18T11:38:22.818+10:002012-09-18T11:38:22.818+10:00It's really hard. I write mostly about teenage...It's really hard. I write mostly about teenagers, and I have to be really careful to not overstep boundaries when I share stuff about my own. Any post that I have doubts about I will ask her first. I also share my own memories and thoughts about being a teenager, and they might often refer to my old friends. Like Workingwomenaus above, someone from my past accused me of selling out friends to make money (ha, make money). It so isn't true - but you can't separate other people from your stories sometimes, and if they are not tragic stories, or not too personal, contain nothing to identify anyone, and happened 25 years ago, I think I'm entitled to share them.The Kids Are All Righthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15767765308684598060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-67254993192979389932012-09-18T11:21:33.355+10:002012-09-18T11:21:33.355+10:00I only blog privately for my family and close frie...I only blog privately for my family and close friends, and I still find this is an issue. I don't even like to post photos of other people and their kids because I feel it's not my place. So my blog has ended up quite boring, unless you're me!! Plenty of photos and stories about the kids, garden, cat and food! Still, it will be lovely to look back on all the little things one day.Averilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15645948528323433452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-85636637615003927832012-09-18T11:10:19.405+10:002012-09-18T11:10:19.405+10:00I can understand that Carly. Sometimes you start w...I can understand that Carly. Sometimes you start writing and sharing about something and then you want to just throw in something else and it is like wearing a different fashion or something. It just doesn't suit you. My blogging takes up too much time so if Mr H didn't know about it he might start to wonder what I was doing on the computer all the time!Claireyhewitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04848058653374768316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-68408906606395392442012-09-18T11:08:01.960+10:002012-09-18T11:08:01.960+10:00Harriet, this is really painful isn't it. Writ...Harriet, this is really painful isn't it. Writing and sharing stories is such a good thing, pity that our stories have characters and personalities and rules and regulations around them.Claireyhewitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04848058653374768316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3615960162747995029.post-61598615176309946832012-09-18T11:05:03.497+10:002012-09-18T11:05:03.497+10:00I completely understand this. Lives are so intertw...I completely understand this. Lives are so intertwined its hard to sometimes know who has ownership of a story. I've just this week started a new blog and new direction. My old one took a direction I never intended with Autism and I found while I NEEDED the therapy to 'brain dump', share, connect and tell our story, it caused a lot of concern among friends and family, and the less fun stuff wasn't fair on my family or children sharing (thinking years down the track) - so i found I was censoring my posts; and it wasn't real. Then I'd write a huge post, re-read it, be struck by how unhappy or negative it was and I would delete it before publishing, which was ok by me, writing and re-reading served it's therapy purpose, but of course published posts dried up.... not really the ideal kind of blog. So I keep that as a personal diary and I have a new blog/therapy with a new direction. Oh and I completely relate to not telling the hubby, mine didn't know, still doesn't. He wont get the need to share or blog I dont think. Although friends and family make the occasional comment and he asks 'How did they know that?' LOLCarly Webberhttp://carlywebber.com.au/charlieandbella/noreply@blogger.com